I didn’t start drinking heavily until the end of my second marriage. The first time I committed myself to a woman, I was young, recklessly in love, and having no idea what “love” really meant (marriage is not the answer, folks). Our relationship ended without her knowing that I had been sleeping with a co-worker. I still feel guilt and a responsibility to tell her, but I just can’t bear to hurt her more. More honestly: I can’t bear to have her look at me as more of a monster than I already am.

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By the time I had settled down for the second time, I was 32. Things were good while they were good. But when romance fizzled out and life settled in, as it always, always does, I realized that the same ghosts of my relationship past came back to haunt me. This time more intensely, because I had ignored them for so long. I was back to my old ways. But this time, my new wife found out. She had suspected for a while, and as her suspicions grew, as did we apart. It was a few irksome text messages, late nights, not wanting to be intimate anymore. The classic signs.

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But those “classic signs” can also just be normal things that mean nothing. What I want to talk about here are the reasons I cheated, and did so prolifically. I want to tell you that the “signs” that someone is cheating aren’t usually universally true. I also want to say that every relationship is different and I would hope you wouldn’t be ending marriages over an article. But then again, if I had read this 10 years ago, I wouldn’t be where I am now: sitting on my couch, whiskey next to me, confessing anonymously to my wrongdoings.

• When people cheat, it’s because they have lost a sense of wanting to try. It’s not that they don’t love you, it’s that they realize trying will be futile.
• Because of this, they would rather seek immediate solace in someone else. We cannot deny the fact that we, as people, need love, connection, intimacy, sex. If we aren’t getting it from the person whom we are supposed to be, we look elsewhere.
• It’s not that it’s the other person’s fault, the action is the fault of the cheater’s and the cheater’s alone— but we cannot neglect to see how, especially in a marriage where you vow to love each other and work through things no matter what, when one party fails to keep that promise, the other may, in a fit of heartbrokenness and loneliness, reach elsewhere.
• We are animals at the end of the day. We are not immune to feeling attracted to other people. But when we feel secure in our relationships as they are, we don’t feel we have to act those attractions.
• We all do really, really stupid things sometimes. Unfortunately, some of us do them with extended consequences. Sometimes we don’t consider the weight of what we’re actually doing.
• But sometimes, we do, and we do it just to hurt the other person. These are the relationships you need to be wary of. These are the people you have to separate yourself from by all means.

So let’s talk about how you know someone is being unfaithful, other than your significant other showing up with lipstick on his collar, because often, people are a little more sly than that.

1. If you inquire as to where they were on a certain night, why they are texting so-and-so, or any other obvious indicators that something could be happening, and they immediately become very defensive and angry with you, that is the biggest red flag.

2. Likewise, if you ask if they are being unfaithful directly, and they become unreasonably angry and avoid answering the question, turning it around on you: why would you think such a thing? Do you not trust me? You don’t love me!

3. They generally turn things around on you, when they are the wrongdoers. It’s my belief that, subconsciously or not, cheaters are always searching for justification for their actions. Even if it’s just in their heads, they are looking for reasons that it’s okay that they’ve done something so wrong, and that usually manifests itself as this kind of behavior.

4. They stop hurting and stop caring, and all of a sudden, the major issues you had in the past seem to be irrelevant. It’s when people stop fighting that you really have to worry– because it means that the relationship doesn’t mean anything to them anymore.

5. They have an intense, or renewed focus on how their partner doesn’t live up to the things they’d want and expect them to be. This can look like someone who is controlling, degrading, insulting, etc. Such behavior is usually rooted in their own insecurities, and they will then look elsewhere to find someone who will make them feel validated and worthy.

The secret life of swingers: New reality show reveals what REALLY goes on when five 'average' couples swap sexual partners

Published: 22:50 BST, 7 August 2013 Updated: 14:22 BST, 8 August 2013

A new reality show will follow five 'average, all-American' couples as they juggle marriages, careers and daily life with swinging.

Couples that star in Secret Sex Lives: Swingers are professionals and parents in committed relationships living in Atlanta, Southern town in the heart of the Bible belt with a lively swinger's scene', and are in committed relationships.

The Discovery Fit & Health show will provide an in-depth look into the nuances of how they navigate swinger relationships and psychology - and also give audiences a voyeuristic look into their lifestyle.

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Behind closed doors: A new reality show, Secret Sex Lives: Swingers, will explore how five couples combine their careers and families with the swinger lifestyle

'The biggest misconception about the swinger lifestyle is that we're hooking up with people day and night, or that I'm a stripper or something,' says Jaymee, a senior account executive who has been swinging for three years with her lawyer husband Everett.

He agrees that setting ground rules is crucial. 'I'm not like Tiger Woods, picking up chicks behind Jaymee's back and hooking up with them.'

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Jaymee says that she gave birth six weeks ago to the couple's first child.

'When I found out I was pregnant my first thought was 'thank God I haven't hooked up with any other guys lately, so it's definitely Everett's baby.'

Family lives: Everett and Jaymee have an open relationship, but she is currently struggling with her confidence level after giving birth

The show also follows Rebecca and her consultant husband Chris on a double date with a new couple. In many ways the nervousness mirrors the awkwardness of a normal first date, which is why Rebecca explains that she has a 'safety word'.

'If I'm having a good time, I say yes when he asks if I want to order dessert,' she explains.

At a dinner party across town, swimwear designer Hali and her husband Bryan explain the swinger lingo to newcomers Jayson and Heidy, who have expressed interest in the lifestyle.

For example when swinging, couples must decide if they will allow 'Full Swap', which is full no-holds-barred sex, or stop at a 'Soft Swap', which usually does not include intercourse.

First date: Chris and Rebecca are shown on a somewhat awkward first dinner date with a new couple

Happy endings: But later, at the club, Rebecca has chemistry with the woman she met on the date with her husband

To find a swap partner, couples also try to avoid the more 'Vanilla' monogamous duos, with the help of a 'Cruise Director' - a person in charge of the action at a swinger's party.

If they get really lucky, they may meet a 'Unicorn' - a single woman who sleeps with couples - but Bryan explains that 'everyone is looking for this girl, but no one has ever met her'.

Initially, Heidy seems reluctant. But on an evening out with the other couples, it's Jayson who gets jealous after he finds Heidy talking to another man in the bedroom.

Testing the limits: Heidy isn't sure that she wants to participate, but later it's Jayson who gets jealous when he finds her talking to a man in a bedroom

Many signs of a swinger seem failtly obvious, such as: 'Couples who are openly flirting with other couples.'

But other things to watch out for, like a 'pineapple placed upside down in a shopping cart' or 'pampas grass in the front yard garden,' seem more like urban myths.

Swingers can also apparently be identified by the outside of their homes. According to Discovery's website, pink and purple decorations in the yard or white landscaping rocks are both signs of alternative sexuality.

So is body jewelry: Thumb rings, toe rings, waist chains and a woman moving her wedding ring to her right hand are all signs of a swinger - as are yin-yang tattooBilly madison script pdf.

According to Swinger Social Network, swingers account for two- to- four per cent of married couples, or an excess of two million people in North America.

Swinging and sex parties have grown in popularity in recent years, re-vamping their image from bowls of keys belonging to suburban housewives, to chic sex clubs with strict requirements for entry.

But outside their hedonistic hobby, the couples are proud of how 'normal' and functioning they are in a society that shuns their lifestyle. Just like monogamous couples, they put emphasis on strong communication and transparency.

But they have to deal with questions that most relationships never face, such as how far they are allowed to go when having sex with a third party.

Many swingers insist that their alternative lifestyle has made their marriages stronger.

One study conducted by the University of Washington Center for the Study of Health and Risk Behaviors showed that in the last two decades, the number of unfaithful wives under the age of 30 increased by 20 percent and number of unfaithful husbands under 30 increased by 45 percent.

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Because the sexual experimentation is done with both partners' knowledge and consent, most swingers do not consider their outside partners infidelity.

DEFINING THE LINES: A SWINGER'S DICTIONARY

Swinging: Also referred to as 'The Lifestyle', swinging is a non-monogamous behavior in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activity with others as a recreational or social activity.

Cheating: Marital infidelity without your partner's knowledge or consent.

Open relationship: A term to describe a relationship arrangement in which both parties in a couple are permitted to engage with other individuals, with or without the knowledge of their primary partner.

'The Rules': For swingers, 'The Rules' are guidelines and principles agreed on by couples to participate in the lifestyle.

Swinging scale: The range of acceptable swinging activities as determined by a couple and/or an individual.

Full Swap: Full swinging experience - no holds barred.

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Soft Swap: A limited swinging experience where the line is typically drawn short of sexual intercourse.

Vanilla: Term used to describe people who do not participate in the lifestyle.

Unicorn: Term described to describe a single female - also referred to as the 'mythical creature' - who engages in sexual activity with another couple. There is no known male equivalent.

Cruise Director: Term used to describe the individual who is in charge of the action at a swinging event.